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How do you deal with rejection? How much it hurts and why would you take it?

A couple of nights ago

A couple of nights ago I updated my status in another site, basically being mopey and feeling hurt about being rejected by a friend, the lil update said this:

"how do you measure rejection? how do you know when you have had enough?"

At the moment I was feeling hurt and guilty, hurt cuz rejection is always such an awful feeling and guilty cuz I keep letting people hurt me over and over without making the healthy choice for me. The thing is, I still don't know how to let go...I mean as long as the person wants to be around me I'd take the bashing no matter how much damage this cause, and I do it basically out of love...

The responses were mostly about how people feels about being rejected romantically (not my case at the moment) and made me think about how much I can take and the way we all deal with rejectin.

Why would I do that? D:

It's not that I'm a masochist, I don't enjoy the pain one bit, ever, and sometimes I don't know if the whole relationship worth the hurt and the way it affects my self perception, cuz I know everyday I feel more worthless and I know from experience that the bashing is only going to escalate (no positive change can be expected) and the pain is only going to increase too, so why I keep doing this to myself? idk, I just know I don't want to hurt the person who's hurting me...very catholic of me...the priest said today something about Christ letting us to devour him for us to be better, so maybe some sense of self sacrifice to make the other happy? idk and I know how sick it sounds :\

the Question?

So how do you measure rejection and how do you know when you have had enough? Also when you have had enough, what's your course of action?


Couple, Friendship, Heart, Heartbreak, Loneliness, Love, Rejection, Relationships

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author avatar Nadia Zahar
I'm a 32 years old, single mother, awfuly shy, terribly neurotic and very friendly at least on my online persona :P

I believe in the most outrageous lies ever told, love, romance, pink ponies ^-^

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author avatar C.T. Aretz
26th Nov 2012 (#)

I think determining rejection is easy, but, like you said, can be easily overlooked. The way to handle it, in my opinion, is just as hard as the alternative. I feel that I would have to let go. Let go of the relationship, the feelings, and the person. I'm not a catcher's mitt, and I don't deserve to be used for someone else's bashing. I can relate to this post. I hope that you can get out of that relationship and re-establish your confidence and/or security once again.

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author avatar vpaulose
26th Nov 2012 (#)

Thank you for the story, Nadia.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
26th Nov 2012 (#)

I feel we should try to live life on our terms but within societal norms. No one should take advantage of us - then we are also guilty of encouraging them in their obnoxious ways. Thus far and no more - will be better for both in the long run. Thanks for the share, Nadia - siva

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author avatar Katherine
26th Nov 2012 (#)

I think that although you are tempted to cling one because you fear hurting another person,you must learn to walk away.But I know it's hard...maybe you will need help to see if there is a pattern from childhood repeating.
I wish you the best

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