Have You Ever Felt Jealous Of Your Partner's Relationship With a Pet?

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Is your pet destroying your relationship? Men have their list of deal breakers when it comes to relationships. And so should women. Ladies, make sure that the guy you choose doesn't have any pet issues that might interfere with true love.

Boyfriend is Jealous Of Her Dog. Please Help!

Your girlfriend's family pet and the special bond they share triggers jealousy for you. You've owned your dog for several years now. You love to cuddle and play with him. He sits on the sofa while you're watching tv. Everytime your boyfriend comes over, you start to argue over your little fluffly poodle. He complains that he can't never be alone with her in the room because the dog is always in the room. He's actually admitted that he's jealous of all the love and attention. Sounds like this guy has some controlling issues and his girlfriend should do some serious reevaluation in her relationship and look at the big picture because if he's so threatened of a twelve pound dog, he would be jealous of anyone that she had to share her love with. If for some reason, they decided to live together, it would definitely be a big problem because he would be complaining that the house is filthy, that there are loose hairs, which as a result, are making him allergic, telling her that she stinks and that he wants to break up with her if she doesn't get rid of the dog. Instead of crying and getting all upset, she should just let him go. This guy is too selfish and is not worthy of her love. It's obvious that he has some psychological issues that he needs to work on before he can commit to any woman. You don't have to get rid of your pet because your partner doesn't enjoy the company of your hamster, pet chimpanzee or parakeet while he's trying to make out with you in the bedroom. If he really cares about you, he will adapt and if he doesn't then it's time to find a new lover.

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author avatar satan fury
11th Jun 2011 (#)

What do you think? I welcome your comments.

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author avatar Molly
28th Jan 2014 (#)

We jusdt recently got a black lab puppy, hes greast cute and I myself adore him, but my bf has become attatched to him more than I can handle. He is condtasntly showering the dog with affection and babys it, I told him he needs training but he insists he can himself. The doig sleeps in our bed, and well I hasvent sibce he came, he makes it uncomfortable and takes up most the room by stretching out. I am fighting with my bf now becauyse of it, I dont want him in my bed , thats our place, I feel like ive been out done by the pup. Last night the puppy flip flopped around the bed and started doing this heavy breathing thing as an attention seeker cuz my man was trying tocuddfle us both, I then reaslized it was becasuse I wzs there which led me to sleep in the chair in living room agasin. I bring thisd up to him anbd its a fight, he says im immature and being compketley stupid, I dont know what to do, I feel like my feelings are being neglected and disrespected at the same time. I need some advice on how to make my bf understand he is teaching the dog to be spoiled.

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author avatar savaswriter
11th Jun 2011 (#)

I think that in our times, people behave with pets much better than they do with their fellow humans. My girlfriend was jealous about my cat, so it is a real phenomenon.

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author avatar The Observer
11th Jun 2011 (#)

I know of a couple who were happily married with a 84kg male dog who slept on the floor. It was only after they got the female dog did the male dog die, not because it was heavy, the breed was such, but because the female dog became the centre of attention. She was such an attention seeker that she began to sleep on their bed and things came to pass that she soon crawled upto sleep between the man and his wife.This was the life of the wife till one day till one day the wife stood up and said either me or the dog. It was a sad thing as the dog destroyed the relationship after 26 years of marriage and it was irreparable as the man died two days later. Its a memory that the poor widow shall carry for therest of her life, that the dog destroyed the marriage and they couldnot rectify it as the man died.
Now, the above was a real dog but there are other species who are also called dogs when they butt into a good relationship and destroy it...
Pets destroying relationships are common but sometimes its a choice of who do you want, man/woman or the dog. Some choose their partner but many choose the dog/pet and kill the relationship totally.

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author avatar satan fury
12th Jun 2011 (#)

wow! lol.

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author avatar DisgruntledWife
9th Oct 2011 (#)

My husband has a small ankle biter. Long story, but he's had the dog for a year and a half, but the dog was raised around him. The dog is 9. We go married in May - and I can't sit by my husband because the dog snaps and growls at me. I can't even get up to walk around the room without the dog growling to warn me "Stay away". The dog sleeps in our bed, because he's always let him. He has bit my ankles at night, and so my husband makes him sleep on HIS side of the bed. Well, in all honesty, I think our bed should be our own sanctuary - a place for out alone time. WE HAVE NONE! The dog has bit me twice in the face, once drawing blood. He scolded the dog --Really??? I love dogs, but the constant attachement this dog has with him, is beginning to put a wedge between us. And the sad part it -- he doesn't know it, because I've not told him. I really do not like the dog, and it's all because of the way he is with the little Taco Bell dog! I'm not exagerating...as we speak, the dog is under his arm, at his side. A few moments ago, my husband got up to use the bathroom, dog in arm, stops by my chair and says, "Say hi to Mom". The dog growls, and off they both go to the bathroom. I'm at wits end - HELP SOMEONE

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author avatar Ali kay
14th Nov 2011 (#)

Girl -- tell your husband about this! For real. And top letting the dog sleep IN YOUR BED together when it's clearly so uncomfortable. It is not right that the dog comes in the way of your intimacy with your husband.

Let him know, but in a loving way. I don't think you should make him get rid of the dog, he clearly loves it, and pets can be great stress management and companionship. But sheesh! You are married for godness sakes. If you cannot lovingly talk to your spouse about the issues that hurt you, who can you talk to?? So maybe you should plan a sexy evening together and let him know how much you care about him and want your relationship to be fruitful and intimate. Let him know about your issues with the dog, and how the dog makes you feel. Ask if he can make a point to have specific alone time with you every day or so, without the dog, and tell him how important that is to you. And make sure you are consistently treating your husband with love and affection -- otherwise, he may be seeking the affection he needs from his canine friend.

If it's possible, try to make friends with the dog. Try feeding him or playing with him, etc. Just be careful -- no one wants you getting bitten again!

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author avatar Yj
11th Aug 2012 (#)

This doesnt work,a pet lover is a pet lover and are not rational at all when it comes to their pets, even fighting for their pet to get allowed where they are not supposed to such as restaurant and etc, CHANGE a complete life style for a pet, the job of a dog/pet is to please and of course we should care of them but now days people go beyond that, they reemplace their partners for it and ever break a WHOLE marriage for it....its true a god is loyal and it doesnt talk back and bla bla bla bla, but when they cant take it anymore, THEY ATTACK, a person talks back in reaction to actions and thats HUMAN nature.

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author avatar Kim
30th Jan 2012 (#)

HI, alot is like me too. The thing is my boyfriend has health issues and the dog came around before I did, he says the dog relaxes him, and because of his health issues he wont touch me in anyway, so go figure and when I touch him, the dog goes crazy too and bit me 2x also and he tells me to get over it. the dog is a taco bell dog too. let me know how you are doing.

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author avatar Ruth
6th Feb 2012 (#)

i can HONESTLY say that i'm jealous of my boyfriends baby (his 9 year old pet collie bitch) she is by his side constantly, tapps his leg for attention all the time, wimpers when he goes out of the room. She demands his full attention and HE GIVES IT TO HER !!! im sent out of the room because im in the way if my partner is cooking and the dog remains in there with him walking circles round his feet !! When he comes home from work, she is first to the door and squeels with delight at his return - i on the other hand have learnt not to go to the door as im usually ignored (in favour of his kissing and cuddling his pooch ) So, call me strange, but the dog comes first !!!! - I feed her, walk her, bath her and play with her - so im not a dog hater in case anyone should think this of me. Im a "Confident" self-assured mother of three who dislikes having her nose pushed out constantly in favour of an animal. I no-longer allow her in my bedroom and believe that this is my sanctuary - not the dogs. I have rules that my children have to abide by and am of the understanding that a dog should also know its place in the home. I may sound harsh, but i fully understand and respect anybody having issues with their partners dog - my fella thinks im ridiculous, but i stopped my youngsters following me to the toilet and i certainly laugh wehn his dog follows him into the bathroom

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author avatar Retired
12th Jun 2011 (#)

Very touching comment and have to say pets can spoil relationships including parrots not just dogs....

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author avatar Denise O
11th Jun 2011 (#)

Well cutiepie, my hubby and I have no problems with this at all. I came with two kids (previous marriage) when I met him and then we started getting dogs, not too long after that. I guess I was very blessed to have gotten Dan or, maybe I was just good at picking them. As we both love our kids and our animals so much, it has never been a problem. Thank you for sharing.:)

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author avatar Retired
12th Jun 2011 (#)

Now that is something, I certainly think that pets, however cute they are should be taught to keep their place where they belong.
I trained my dogs and cats to sit away from the sofas and behave themselves accordingly.
My cats used to like sitting atop on the piano and I gave them a place out there and the dogs by my side whilst I practised. When I got married, my husband hated dogs and I taught my dog not to go and worry him although in the end the two did go and do some bonding but he was a polite chap, the dog that is, used to listen to what I told him and leave the room when the husband came home... Prancer, was a Swiss Mountain dog, the best I ever had like my cats Soprano and Silky who sat on the piano.... BTW, Prancer took care of my pet squirrel Max, that was how disciplined he was....
The man loves the woman, keep the dog out of the room and give him his man time. If she loves the dog more throw her and her dog out. Simple!!! Not worth being second fiddle is it???

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author avatar Songbird B
12th Jun 2011 (#)

Interesting article, Cutiepie. When I met my husband, I already had a dog, and have had dogs ever since, but my hubby is a real pet lover, so no problems on that score. Some pets can become very territorial, and that is when it really becomes a problem...Great share..

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author avatar satan fury
17th Jun 2011 (#)

I'm a pet lover as well. It's true some are territorial like my dog. thanks for sharing songbird

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5th Aug 2011 (#)

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author avatar Saraband
4th Sep 2011 (#)

I was looking for articles about this exact phenomenon which I have never encountered before, and I've had boyfriends who had pets of their own or pets we shared, both cats & dogs... My current beau has always been an utter fool about cats. If he sees a cat anywhere, he has to point it out and he always tries to get its attention so he can pet it, etc. Example: Whenever we passed his next-door neighbor's house where a cat lived, we had to stop while he tried to figure out if the cat was home and if so, wait around to see if it would come over so he could talk to it. EVERY SINGLE TIME. It made me wonder what he'd be like with his own cat, and now I know: She is all he talks about, she has the run of the house, he chatters at her constantly and pets her whenever she is within arm's reach, and if she walks away then he continuously tries to coax her back to being petted. I'm glad he loves his cat but I don't understand the constant, overweening attention to her, whether she wants it or not. I think it's absolutely idiotic and it might be a deal-breaker for me; I can't believe I feel jealous of a cat! I feel like he could pet and sweet-talk her all day, which is fine if he's alone with her but when I'm there it just feels insulting (especially when the cat is ignoring/avoiding him)... I don't think he's aware of it but I can't think of a good way to tell him. I don't have any hard feelings toward the cat, she is lovely and charming, it's his behavior that's ridiculous and offensive to me. I don't want him to choose between me & the cat... just to have some consideration and for everyone's sake, set some boundaries. Like hey, if I'm staying over can we close the door so it's just us in the bedroom, and not the cat? But I'm worried he'd take it completely the wrong way. AArgh!

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author avatar 2nd fiddle
4th Nov 2011 (#)

Wow Saraband, I could have wrote that myself about my girlfriend and her cat. She's a great cat, but the constant funny voices and chatter just drive me crazy. No boundaries whatsoever. God forbid I would even suggest shutting the bedroom door to the cat. Nice to know I'm not the only one that feels this way!

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author avatar Ali kay
14th Nov 2011 (#)

Saraband, TELL him. If he wants you in his life, he needs to respect your need for attention too, and not consistently shut you out -- for an ANIMAL. Tell him sweetly what is going on, how much you like him, and that you don't want the CAT to tear apart your relationship, for goodness sakes. Be kind and understanding about it though. Make sure he knows you're not asking for the cat to be cut out of his life completely. If he doesn't listen when you kindly bring it up.... Deal breaker.

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author avatar Vic
9th Sep 2011 (#)

I think people should be the priority in people vs. pets. I recently parted ways with someone that I loved/he loved me over his dog. He seemed
obsessively attached to his pet....she acted like she was
his wife whining, clinging and
extremely jealous and he catered to her because of it to the point of we would have
to live apart in order for him to
keep his pet as I recently became a pet owner of two
papillon puppies. I am not a
real dog lover, but finally did
get puppies as I am home, retired and have time to take
care of them. I lost my fiancee and son in the past year and thought they would
be good therapy for myself and my 12 year old son. I
can only have two dogs where
I live and my home would take
a while to sell, therefore one
of our 3 dogs would have to
go. His dog is a very hyper
breed and I know that I would
not be able to adjust to it. I am hurt that he would not consider finding his dog a good home in order to be with
my son and I. He does not
take good care of his dog, i.e.
heartworm meds, any flea control, trimming of nails, etc. and it spends 9 hours in crate
per day..........evenings he has
to walk it 6 times. He visited
my home with his dog and could not leave the room she
was in, had to bring her in bedroom to spend 30 minutes
with me, could not pet my puppies or show affection to
me. I felt this was ridiculous and obsessive. One time at
his home he cuddled dog rather than me. I think dogs need love, attention, proper care, etc., however should not
rank above humans. Therefore, we are no longer speaking or planning to marry.
I find it very sad, but he made
his clear choice that the dog
was there first and that is a
deal breaker for him. To me it
is a deal breaker for me because I know I cannot adjust to his dog even though
I think we could have been
very happy together. He got
very nasty with me about it and told me to talk to my son
about getting rid of one of his
puppies so he could keep his
dog. So, basically I feel he does love the dog more and that is his perogative. It is quite a slap though to be second fiddle to a dog. Ouch!
I wish he had of loved me more. In experiencing recent
deaths of two of my most
precious people in the world,
I am acutely aware of how much more important people should be. Again, I know people really value their pets,
but people can give you much
more joy and do real things with you.....things pets cannot
do with you or for you. Maybe
some people are obsessive about their pets and use them
to take the place of having a
significant human in their life. I think that is really sad, especially in the case that
maybe you could find a nice
home better suited to your pet's needs, where it might
receive more attention and
better care. That would be the
loving thing to do (less selfish)
than to put your emotional needs before the welfare of the pet's. I think they are quite adaptable as long as they are placed in a loving, healthy environment. Then we
would get to live happily ever after. He sees it as selfish and that the dog was there
first and that my son and I
would need to do all of the
adapting, moving, or getting rid of our dogs.....even though
we have just been through much emotional trauma. So,
in the end we are not compatible over a dog. That
do hurt when a dog's emotions, etc. are more important than yours, especially that we could have
greatly benefited from the love
of a good human. Dogs are
important vs. PEOPLE ARE MUCH MORE IMPORTANT!

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author avatar Justice
25th Jan 2012 (#)

I completely agree with you and have a similar story

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author avatar Vic
9th Sep 2011 (#)

I think people should be the priority in people vs. pets. I recently parted ways with someone that I loved/he loved me over his dog. He seemed
obsessively attached to his pet....she acted like she was
his wife whining, clinging and
extremely jealous and he catered to her because of it to the point of we would have
to live apart in order for him to
keep his pet as I recently became a pet owner of two
papillon puppies. I am not a
real dog lover, but finally did
get puppies as I am home, retired and have time to take
care of them. I lost my fiancee and son in the past year and thought they would
be good therapy for myself and my 12 year old son. I
can only have two dogs where
I live and my home would take
a while to sell, therefore one
of our 3 dogs would have to
go. His dog is a very hyper
breed and I know that I would
not be able to adjust to it. I am hurt that he would not consider finding his dog a good home in order to be with
my son and I. He does not
take good care of his dog, i.e.
heartworm meds, any flea control, trimming of nails, etc. and it spends 9 hours in crate
per day..........evenings he has
to walk it 6 times. He visited
my home with his dog and could not leave the room she
was in, had to bring her in bedroom to spend 30 minutes
with me, could not pet my puppies or show affection to
me. I felt this was ridiculous and obsessive. One time at
his home he cuddled dog rather than me. I think dogs need love, attention, proper care, etc., however should not
rank above humans. Therefore, we are no longer speaking or planning to marry.
I find it very sad, but he made
his clear choice that the dog
was there first and that is a
deal breaker for him. To me it
is a deal breaker for me because I know I cannot adjust to his dog even though
I think we could have been
very happy together. He got
very nasty with me about it and told me to talk to my son
about getting rid of one of his
puppies so he could keep his
dog. So, basically I feel he does love the dog more and that is his perogative. It is quite a slap though to be second fiddle to a dog. Ouch!
I wish he had of loved me more. In experiencing recent
deaths of two of my most
precious people in the world,
I am acutely aware of how much more important people should be. Again, I know people really value their pets,
but people can give you much
more joy and do real things with you.....things pets cannot
do with you or for you. Maybe
some people are obsessive about their pets and use them
to take the place of having a
significant human in their life. I think that is really sad, especially in the case that
maybe you could find a nice
home better suited to your pet's needs, where it might
receive more attention and
better care. That would be the
loving thing to do (less selfish)
than to put your emotional needs before the welfare of the pet's. I think they are quite adaptable as long as they are placed in a loving, healthy environment. Then we
would get to live happily ever after. He sees it as selfish and that the dog was there
first and that my son and I
would need to do all of the
adapting, moving, or getting rid of our dogs.....even though
we have just been through much emotional trauma. So,
in the end we are not compatible over a dog. That
do hurt when a dog's emotions, etc. are more important than yours, especially that we could have
greatly benefited from the love
of a good human. Dogs are
important vs. PEOPLE ARE MUCH MORE IMPORTANT!

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author avatar Samehere
2nd Feb 2012 (#)

Live with beau and his dog. Dog resided on couch and slept with him every night in bed. Mind you, the couch only fits him and the dog, and the bed as well. Finally got the dog out of the bed, but it still owns the couch. We have to take the dog with us everywhere and we don't really have any couple time without the dog. I sit in a chair in living room while they cuddle for hours. All meals, the dog has it's nose as close to our plates as possible or is under my feet as I'm trying to put food on the table. I try to understand the relationship they have, and tolerate it, but it's difficult.

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author avatar Ruth
6th Feb 2012 (#)

why are we seen as being the selfish, insecure humans - when our partners spend so much time with their animals ? i have so much love to give to my partner and feel pushed out of his life in favour of his dog. Im serioudly considering ending my relationship with him - they just dont understand that it is they who have emotional issues to deal with (they are in love with an animal for gods sake and treat them like a human) sometimes i feel quite sickened by the full on attention my partner gives his collie bitch - its not something ive seen happen before - surely its not totally normal is it ????

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author avatar Josie
9th Feb 2012 (#)

I'm sure it's normal for them ruth, my partner is exactly the same with his Staffy, who he had for 5 years and has always been his baby. I have told him how jealous I am that the dog gets the first kiss when he comes home from work, and although he says "he's been alone all day, poor thing, he needs attention", doesn't get that I haven't seen him all day either? I have managed to stop him sleeping on our bed, only when I was pregnant, and dog kept jumping on my stomach...but he still goes to bed with him if he's home for the day and I'm not, therefore making me look like the bad guy! I have even caught dog giving me the eye while daddy is lavishing attention on him, as if to say "haha I'm getting attention and you're not" Haha sounds stupid, but honestly that's how far this has gone!!!

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author avatar Yj
11th Aug 2012 (#)

you are not the only one, i swear my dog did the same thing, last thing i did was band my knees and pray to God to do something if he didnt want my marriage to be done and the next day the dog was killed by a car.

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author avatar AM
31st Jan 2013 (#)

Thank you thank you thank you! Just reading all these comments has made me realise I'm not going insane and I'm not irrational, I felt completely stupid about my jealousy until I saw I wasn't the only one!

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author avatar Josie
9th Feb 2012 (#)

And Ruth, I laughed so much about your comment of the dog following him into the bathroom, cos mine does the same!! Maybe I should start following him around the house everywhere, as his 'baby' does, then when he complains, ask why the dog is allowed to but I'm not! I also have rules for my kids (including not sleeping in our bed and the toilet is a private place!), but poor baby gets whatever he wants...

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author avatar Boo
28th Feb 2012 (#)

These stories are making me feel so much better- had an argument with my partner about our dog- he seems obsessed with her- and it was driving me insane!! Feel like we've brought this thing into our home now his attentions are divided... Not cool. Some people need to remember a dog is a dog not a person....

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author avatar Prettyloyal
17th Jul 2012 (#)

My girlfriend and I just moved in together about a 2 1/2 weeks ago. We are very much in love and our relationship is actually very near perfect, except she has a cat. I am deathly afraid of cats, abhor them and am allergic. He has free reign over the entire house, including our bed, the kitchen table, counters, bathtub, etc! That pretty much means everywhere I am! I tried playing nicely before moving with her by rubbing his head and guess what-HE BIT ME!! So, that has intensified my fear and loathing time 1000. I love her, our relationship is 3 months old and I don't want to lose her. We have had several conversations about it but she will not set boundaries for him. She cries, I cry and she does not want me to move nor do I want to move. I don't want him to sleep in our bed nor jump on the table when we are eating. Please help. I am a positive person but this cat is ruining my life and I am allowing him to bring my energy completely down. Any suggestions?

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author avatar Concerned
19th Aug 2012 (#)

From the posters stating that they are jealous of the pets, have you ever threatened your significant other with harm to the animal? My dogs, particularly the younger one, have been a point of contention in my most recent relationship. Last night he told me that he was glad she fell down the steps & made remarks about how he would like to snap her neck or throw her against a wall. I know he makes her nervous & I feel that he blames all our problems on her--but she's not the reason he drinks all night or can't tell the same story twice. I guess I am looking for reassurance that I am right to be concerned & scared by his remarks.

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author avatar LoveHate
22nd Aug 2012 (#)

i am having the same problem, my partner comes in every day and gives the dog all the attention in the world she gets to sit on the couch she gets in the bed, she cant possibly be left on her own as she would be lonely, and god forbid the dog be sad. i have never had problems with dogs before as i was raised with dogs, but this is too far for me. when we go out in the car she sits in the back and when hes driving the dog climbs up and licks his face and he strokes her while trying to drive... i am glad to know i am not the only one going through this, i thought i was going mad... has anyone got any ideas of how to get over this as i am at my wits end now. she is the one in the relationship with him not me..

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author avatar Lins
26th Sep 2012 (#)

My boyfriend is the same with his dog, and it really gets my back up. Ian gettin to the point that I don't like his dog, which is bad cause when I was growin up I brought up with dogs cause my mum and dad use to bread them. I've got a cat and the dog keeps chasing my cat, now the stays upstairs out of the way and never see her which makes my sad. If me and my partner are cuddling on the sofa the dog there in the middle, he just seems to have more attention for his dog and not me!!!

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author avatar Teresa
20th Feb 2014 (#)

I can relate to what everyone is talking about...my situation is. first off Im not a big fan of dogs, my husband knows this, my daughter found a husky, I think huskies are beautiful. so against what I want I agreed to get the dog for my husband and son, I have trained her to do a lot, and I take care of her but my husband works all the time and when hes home hes up her butt, regretting my decision. but its a no win situation because my husband and son both adore her and I argue constantly over our dog...I feel like im a crazy person getting jealous over an animal, we are moving and she will be an outside dog, not sure if that will happen. I myself would prefer not to have any animals at all theres enough crap going on in our lives not to have to worry about a dog on top of all that to...Im sick and on disability so I don't feel good ever so I feel like my husband and son are being selfish, but I should of never gotten her. I guess Im just going to have to live with my stupid decision to have gotten her.....thanks everyone for your stories.....

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